Former ‘Pregnant Woman' Nicole Lynn Lewis Helps Different Teen Mothers : Pictures

Nicole Lynn Lewis is the creator of Pregnant Woman: A Story of Teen Motherhood, School, and Making a Higher Future for Younger Households. Elissa Nadworny/NPR conceal caption

toggle caption
Elissa Nadworny/NPR

Nicole Lynn Lewis is the creator of Pregnant Woman: A Story of Teen Motherhood, School, and Making a Higher Future for Younger Households.

Elissa Nadworny/NPR

When Nicole Lynn Lewis bought pregnant in highschool, she thought it'd finish her dream of going to school and having a profession. She felt ashamed, partly due to how folks regarded her as a pregnant Black teenager.

"In that second, as I watched these two pink traces present up on that check on the counter of my lavatory, [I felt] that I used to be now in a unique class as a person and as an individual," she says, "that I'd eternally be in that class of somebody who had made all of the improper selections, somebody who was not going to achieve success."

Lewis miscarried three months into that being pregnant however later bought pregnant once more with the identical boyfriend — even supposing she was taking contraception drugs on the time. In 1999, when her daughter was nonetheless an toddler, Lewis enrolled within the School of William & Mary. She confronted quite a few challenges — together with an abusive boyfriend and housing insecurity — however managed to place herself by school, after which grad faculty.

In 2010 Lewis based the group Era Hope, a nonprofit group that helps teen moms within the Washington, D.C. metro space with monetary help and mentoring to assist them thrive in school and assist their youngsters thrive in kindergarten.

"These are the instances that we have to rally round moms, irrespective of how previous they're or how they introduced their youngsters into the world," Lewis says. "It is not about pairing our college students with consultants. It is about pairing them with cheerleaders, with individuals who say, 'You are able to do it — you probably have a teething child at 2 a.m. and you've got a midterm the following day, we'll get by it. You are able to do this.' It is about having a village."

Lewis, who's now in her 40s, was named a CNN Hero in 2014. Final 12 months, she was named one of many inaugural awardees of The Nationwide Black Voices for Black Justice Fund, in recognition of her work addressing structural and systemic racism in America. Hew new memoir known as Pregnant Woman.

Interview highlights

On the methods through which teenage ladies do not at all times have management over their our bodies

The World Well being Group launched a report a number of years in the past, and within the report they talked about the truth that adolescent being pregnant is extra a few lack of selections than a deliberate alternative. And that has at all times actually caught out to me as a good way to essentially reframe the best way that we take into consideration teen being pregnant and younger ladies who discover themselves on this scenario.

There is a sense of powerlessness that I feel is going on for younger folks all throughout the nation. And what we see is that even entry to contraception is a problem for a lot of younger folks. Having high quality, efficient well being care and having the ability to entry that may be a problem. And so I feel we've got to essentially begin to perceive the underlying points which might be at play that basically rob younger folks of their capability to make their very own selections about their our bodies and their lives.

Pregnant Girl: A Story of Teen Motherhood, College, and Creating a Better Future for Young Families, by Nicole Lynn Lewis
Pregnant Girl: A Story of Teen Motherhood, College, and Creating a Better Future for Young Families, by Nicole Lynn Lewis

On reproductive coercion and the way her then boyfriend did not need her to be on the tablet

I feel that is one other side of youth being pregnant that many individuals do not find out about, which is that you simply usually, as a younger girl, are in these relationships the place you are being pressured by your companion to get pregnant. And oftentimes it isn't as a result of your companion is so enthusiastic about settling down and beginning a household. It is extra concerning the management that your companion can exert over you with a being pregnant and ensuring that you simply stick with them, ensuring that you simply keep residence, ensuring that you simply aren't working or pursuing your desires, all of those varied issues that they discover intimidating or a menace to the connection. We see that day-after-day at Era Hope in so many conditions the place we're supporting younger mother and father whose youngsters are the merchandise of that reproductive coercion. And I feel it is one thing that many individuals, once we take into consideration teen being pregnant, we actually don't have any clue what is going on on in these relationships with younger folks. And it's occurring day-after-day.

On how teen moms additionally expertise postpartum despair and a particular type of isolation

Many moms expertise that for months, the place you possibly can't see the sunshine on the earth. And I feel, once more, we discuss it with regards to older moms, moms who possibly have a conventional path to motherhood. However we do not discuss it with regards to teen moms. ... We now have this factor about, "You made your mattress now, now lie in it" — how damaging that's. It is a time as a brand new mother, so many people can perceive the fragility that you've got as a brand new mom and the uncertainty and simply the truth that the world feels the wrong way up most days. You are in a fog, even with out postpartum despair. ... And but, for younger moms, we rip the rug proper out from beneath them and we've got to acknowledge the truth that that's damaging, and it causes so many points, not only for the mother, but in addition for that baby.

On why Black college students and younger Black mother and father have probably the most school debt

There are such a lot of issues that contribute to that, from the racial wealth hole that the Black households have by way of how do you afford school within the first place, they're extra more likely to need to take out loans. However then in the event you're a parenting school scholar, you are not solely taking out loans for tuition, however you are taking out loans for baby care. You take out loans, probably, for housing. That was actually the case for me. I used to be dwelling off of scholar loans to ensure that I couldn't solely go to highschool, however that my daughter and I had meals to eat, had a roof over our heads. Youngster care is extremely costly. I feel we have seen the entire points and the issues with our baby care sector on this nation. And so there aren't reasonably priced baby care options.

For those who're a parenting school scholar and all of these prices, they stack up. And so both you make it to the commencement stage and you've got an amazing quantity of debt, however you are at the least in a position to have that credential to attempt to get right into a family-sustaining job. [Or], for a lot of, many Black mother and father who're in school, you do not even make it to the commencement stage. You may need to cease out due to totally different circumstances. And you then're riddled with this scholar debt and you do not have a credential to point out for it.

On serving to to stop teen being pregnant and likewise serving to teen moms on the similar time

I feel the primary false impression that the majority of us have is you could't assist teen being pregnant prevention and assist teen mother and father achieve success, and that is not true. These two issues can coexist. ... I feel we will proceed these actually great efforts on the teenager being pregnant prevention facet of complete intercourse schooling, ensuring that teenagers have entry to efficient contraception and contraception, ensuring that adults are speaking to their youngsters about reproductive well being and intercourse and having these necessary conversations over time. All of these efforts are vastly necessary and so they can occur. And likewise we will ensure that we're eradicating [educational and economic] limitations for these younger individuals who do expertise the being pregnant. ...

I feel the opposite factor that we've got to begin to actually title — I discuss to individuals who work within the teen being pregnant prevention area and so they're not speaking about race. They are not speaking about systemic points. And also you're lacking the mark in the event you're working in teen being pregnant and you are not naming the position of race and actually speaking about: How will we tackle these underlying points that may usually result in a teen being pregnant which might be past contraception and past intercourse schooling? They usually're actually about hope for younger folks, ensuring that each one younger folks on this nation have the flexibility to maneuver out of poverty and to beat racial oppression. And what are all of us doing to ensure that occurs, and that they've a hope to go on and to do actually nice issues of their lives?'

On the connection between homelessness and younger being pregnant

First, I feel we've got to type of title the truth that there are a lot of younger people who find themselves homeless even earlier than a being pregnant comes into the image. This actually speaks to those underlying points which might be at play in younger folks's lives earlier than a being pregnant. And poverty is an enormous one. And we've got to cease this sort of framing of the problem of youth being pregnant as being that all the pieces goes effectively in an adolescent's life, they grow to be pregnant after which they grow to be homeless after which they go into poverty.

What is usually occurring is that younger individuals are in these housing-insecure, food-insecure conditions — actually darkish conditions — difficult, household conditions the place a being pregnant is a symptom of these of these bigger points that had been at play of their lives a very long time in the past. And so housing insecurity and teenage being pregnant are related as a result of typically it is already occurring within the lifetime of that younger particular person earlier than the being pregnant. Generally it occurs because of the being pregnant.

There are some households or mother and father that say, "It's important to go away now that you simply're pregnant" and so they kick these younger folks out on the streets. After which typically, as you are making an attempt to supply in your youngsters, simply housing affordability is such a problem. And as a younger guardian with possibly a highschool diploma — and greater than probably not a university diploma or a post-secondary credential — housing turns into extremely troublesome. So it is deeply intertwined with teen being pregnant.

On how being a mom now — married with a dedicated companion — compares to her expertise as a teen mother

Oh my gosh, it was night time and day simply having the ability to depend on somebody within the parenting journey — it is large. And to be a staff collectively. I bear in mind having our first baby collectively. It was onerous typically to let him deal with me and the child once we got here residence from the hospital, as a result of my first expertise, I used to be utterly alone. And actually having a companion and somebody who's current, who's concerned, who needs to vary diapers, who needs to speak about report playing cards, who needs to be there for the soccer video games and the good things, but in addition who needs to navigate the tougher issues with you? It is utterly totally different. And it has simply been a beautiful expertise to see him be part of my oldest daughter's life and to additionally see him as a father to our kids. It has been superb.

Sam Briger and Kayla Lattimore produced and edited the audio of this interview. Bridget Bentz, Molly Seavy-Nesper and Deborah Franklin tailored it for the Internet.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *